“Never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.”

I have cried more today than I have in all of my politically conscious life. I do not only cry for myself and how incredibly terrified I feel, but I cry for those around me whose lives and quality of life are in complete jeopardy. I cry for the women that felt it was acceptable to vote for a man that brags about sexually assaulting women and treats the dirt on his shoes with more respect than any woman in his life. I cry for the 49.5% of eligible voters that DID NOT VOTE because they felt that their voice didn’t carry any weight. And I cry for the millions if not billions of lives globally who do not have the security of peace from another world war. But for now my tears have subsided. They are still there, always willing to spill at the drop of a hat or a punch in the stomach by personal accounts from others that have dealt with more racism, sexism, and hatred today than they have ever experienced in recent years. And this is what will fuel me in the days and weeks ahead. This morning I felt absolutely defeated, hopeless, and helpless because I assumed that the majority of this country is full of hate and anger. But from watching these thousands of protesters across the country assemble completely organically…the high school students in CA that staged walkouts, the immigrants that have vowed not to leave without a fight…..this has inspired my faith in humanity again. After we take the time to heal and grieve, (and take as long as you need) it is now time to turn these tears and passion into action and activism. Where am I needed? What can I do? I will volunteer at women’s crisis centers, at Planned Parenthood clinics….we will take this shit underground if we need to. I vow from this point forward that I will NOT STOP FIGHTING TO PROTECT OUR RIGHTS AND OUR AUTONOMY. I will do my best to help those in my life and community that have been made to feel inferior or frightened in the presence of others’ ignorance. My mom experienced the 2nd women’s movement and my dad is a Vietnam veteran. They told me tonight that we will fix this and that they will do whatever it takes to protect our rights and keep us safe…So this is to my community and my friends and my family…what can I do? Do you need a hug? Do you want to talk? Do you want to sit and pray? Do you want to yell at the sky? Do you want to do some yoga? Do you want to take a walk in the woods together? What do we need right now to make each other feel safe? Because I will do whatever I can until my very last breath to make my loved ones feel safe again. Remember that there are more of us that are compassionate & empathetic than there are those that are spiteful and hateful. Love will ALWAYS trump hate. I will never stop believing that. Let’s heal, get inspired, and take action. We will rise again -I promise you that.  
©MoniqueAdrianne
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Stand Up -Not Just For Yourself But For Others

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I will always speak up for myself and others because I didn’t realize how powerful my voice was until I had been silenced.
“Whenever one person steps up and says, ‘Wait a minute, this is wrong,’ it helps others to do the same.” – Gloria Steinem

©MoniqueAdrianne

My Dream

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This is my dream.

Wanting to wake up early in the morning rather than having to.

Fluttering my eyes open casually at the end of my 4th or 6th REM cycle…sunlight filtering in through the shutters onto the sheets.

Grabbing my favorite coffee/tea cup and waiting for the sweet aroma of golden liquid to drip.

Sitting comfortably and leisurely at my desk, sipping the sweet, earthy flavor and letting it feed my inspiration and creativity…knowing that I have inspired and helped others.

My dream is to follow my passion and to wake up next to the one that I love everyday.

Now that I have it so vividly in my mind, I feel that it’s a reality that I can now create and mold to my liking.

©MoniqueAdrianne

Be The Change

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When I think of protests, I think of these images.
Nonviolent resistance. Sit-ins. Rallies. Marches. Picketing. Making love, and not war. Standing up for what you believe in. Influencing everything –the music, TV, film, literature, art…
That’s how real change is sparked. How you inspire millions to move together for a cause.
Anti-war, women’s rights, civil rights…Martin Luther King, Coretta Scott King, Bob Dylan, Gloria Steinem, Bob Marley…all of these movements and their leaders ignited real transforming action. They influenced an entire generation to take charge and make a difference –peacefully.

Looting and violence is not a protest. Combatting brutality and violence with aggression only creates more hostility. This is not how change happens. Violence produces more violence and bloodshed.

Take note from those that came before you. Realize what succeeded and what did not. Research and get inspired. There’s a better way to create change.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi

©MoniqueAdrianne

Sexual Health Is Your Priority

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I believe that I’ve taken for granted how lucky I am to have been able to grow up the way that I have. My family has always instilled a great education of sexual female health throughout my life. I think it probably helps that my sister is an OBGYN as well. 🙂

So when I come across others, especially women, that are completely unaware of their various birth control options, how their bodies work, & particularly how important gynecological visits are, my passion for women’s health & feminism is only ignited more brilliantly.

Our society unfortunately does a very good job at keeping women in the dark about their sexual health. The reason being is to control women’s lives & to do this, it is necessary to control women’s reproductive options. Thankfully there have been numerous outlets & resources created to combat this problem. However, I have come across far too many younger women that are sexually active, yet have never even thought to go to a gynecological exam. Yes, this has a lot to do with confidence & respecting your body, but this is also a clear representation of the way that young people are being taught about their health options. Too often this topic is glazed over, missing information, & especially introduced as a shameful subject.


All various sexes & genders should have full control of their own bodies, access to reproductive education, options, & services. This is first & foremost a matter of basic human rights & bodily integrity. Yet, if our institutions & society negate these needs, it is ultimately our responsibility to educate ourselves & others. Start a conversation! Use the internet as a tool! Actually walk into a physical bookstore! Talk to your friends, your doctor, your family. This should not be a disgraceful or shocking matter! And this change of perspective begins with each one of us!

©MoniqueAdrianne

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Do Not Ever Turn Your Back On Her

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Be the woman you want to spend time with.
Inspire, motivate, build her up, be kind to her.
(Do not call her names, tear her down, or be cruel)
When she dresses up -compliment and smile at her. Assure her that she is beautiful.
(Do not glare, roll your eyes, or give jealous stares)
Encourage, support, and speak positively to her.
(Do not call her any negative expletive: “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore.”)
When she is bold and strong, praise her.
(Do not view her strength as cattiness or competition.)

Do not ever turn your back on her.


Feminism is the belief in the social, economic, and political equality for both men and women, all sexes and all genders. (Let’s move past this idea of binary categories- sex and gender are fluid across all spectrums)


If you believe in this, you are a feminist. Do not let the negative connotations that patriarchal societies create deter you from supporting one another and making the world a better place -for EVERYONE.

©MoniqueAdrianne

She Paints Her Dreams With Parts of Her Soul

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I’ve always been encouraged throughout my creative career to sell my artworks or showcase them. Each time, I cannot bear the thought of it. Each drawing, painting, photograph, poem, story, and article that I have ever created, I have infused and forged a piece of myself into it. It’s as if I have chiseled pieces of my soul and placed them in each word, each drip of paint, and each click of the lens.


Every message and phone call exclaiming that you’ve seen these pieces of me encapsulated in my art is precisely (what I feel), every artist truly desires. That acknowledgement, that inspired reaction, the recognition, the…acceptance.
My hugest craving in life is to feel appreciated and loved. And when someone takes the time to notice and acknowledge my creativity, my heart flutters like a butterfly in my ribcage.


Artists create to express, and when their work sparks and ignites more creativity and passion –that’s ultimately what it’s all about. Thank you. ❤ 🙂

(Quote originally by Henry Ward Beecher but I changed “he” to “she” )

©MoniqueAdrianne

It’s All Within You

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No matter what happens, I am right where I need to be. What I desire is not always the Universe’s plan. Sometimes God has something much more marvelous and amazing in store for us.
Now is the time for inner work, meditation, patience, and having faith that the door will open when I am ready for it to be opened. There are clearly more lessons that need to be grasped.
Thank you for all of your love and support. It means the world to me having such incredible friends and family at my side.


“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” -Woody Allen

©MoniqueAdrianne

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Teach Me How to Trust Myself

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“Teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.”

-Lakhota Prayer (the indigenous people of the Great Plains of North America)

Learn to trust ALL of yourself. You’re being unfair to your soul if you do not. ❤

©MoniqueAdrianne

 

Let Your Love Light Up the World

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Let your love light up someone’s day.
Share as much love as possible each and every day with as many people that you can. Let it overflow through your fingertips; let your love be filled with so much positive energy and intent, that it powerfully changes and shifts those around you.
Remember how much of an unstoppable force you are. Change the world around you with love, passion, positivity, and intention. ❤

©MoniqueAdrianne

Be Like the Moon

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Be yourself. Fully. Entirely. Without fault. With flaws and imperfections.
Never, ever, compromise who you are by pleasing those around you. You’re the one that gets the pleasure of being with yourself always, every day. So make sure it’s the ‘you’ that’s unapologetically themselves. Because that’s the best you!! Don’t tip toe around others, trying not to make a splash. Express yourself exuberantly!! Dance and swim to your heart’s content. It’s your happiness and you’re in charge of it -so choose to be happy!! 🙂

©MoniqueAdrianne

Duty of the Artist

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When I first started my website, I created a business plan. In this plan, I depicted my purpose, my mission statement….even my friend helped me incorporate all types of questions to reflect on. What are my readers’ needs? How do they assess the world around them? What are their desires? And most importantly, what do I want them to take from my writings?
Over the past year, I have strived to inspire, spark passion, & incite you to ask questions about yourselves…I’ve given advice & shared my stories & experiences with you.
I certainly do NOT know all of the answers. However, I am clear in my understanding of what my purpose here in this life is –I am meant to be a messenger. I do my best to share each lesson that I’ve learned, & in turn, I hope that it helps & aids you in each of your journeys.
I aspire to be a catalyst for your inspiration & passion; I do my best to encourage your self-realization & I always have my words come from a balanced, positive, loving, & gentle place within myself. Through what I write, I become more self-aware & continue to learn more about myself & the world around me.
I thank each & every one of you for your many kind words, your support & your love, & most of all, your consideration & awareness for what I attempt to express. This has become such an incredible, healing, & creative outlet for me & I hope to continue to motivate & encourage you in all of your endeavors. ❤ 🙂

©MoniqueAdrianne

Step 101: Fulfilling Your Dream

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Your dreams shouldn’t debilitate and incapacitate you. After years and years of working towards realizing and completing your goals, shouldn’t we be willing to sprint towards the finish line when we’re within earshot of them? Dreams shouldn’t be feared when we’re so close to achieving them. But sometimes they can be –they can be really scary and frightening because we’ve struggled all this way. What if it’s not everything that you hoped it would be? What if you don’t think you deserve it? What will you do afterwards?

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, is in my collection of favorite books (I highly suggest it!!). Within it, one of the lessons that are taught is this: “People are afraid to pursue their most important dreams, because they feel that they don’t deserve them.”

When we have worked so hard and long towards reaching our dreams, sometimes when we see it within our grasp, we tend to let it go because we don’t feel that it’s ours to attain. But it is! It is YOUR dream after all, isn’t it?

Over the past 10 years, I’ve struggled with finishing school –I’ve been taking classes to transfer to a 4 year college. Life hit me with one situation after another –some veered me off course, but others sent me back to where I needed to be. I’m SO CLOSE to transferring to a 4 year –I’m within grasp of it; and now to be completely honest, I’m freaking out quite a bit over here.

We have our ups and downs with our dreams for exactly this reason –it’s a test to see if we REALLY and TRULY want it. Are we willing to work towards it? Are we going to put in the effort it takes to get to where we want to be? Dreams are dreams for a reason –they’re a journey of time, patience, passion, and dedication. Fulfilling a dream shouldn’t be the frightening part but maybe the conclusion and ending of that dream is what is truly terrifying –having to find a new one.

Having myself so close to where I want to be is just….overwhelming. I’m excited. I’m terrified. I’m happy. I’m despondent and distressed. And I’m stunned and dazed. I have self-sabotaged myself SO much over this and I’ve realized that it’s not for the reasons that I had once thought. It’s because I’m afraid of what comes after this –it’s the unknown part. But that’s okay! I don’t think we can truly and fully experience life without having that little bit of fear –it’s when we tell ourselves to let our faith in our dreams be bigger than our fears –that’s how we endure and attain our dreams; that’s how we push ourselves into the unknown –to go and find a new dream.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.”

❤ 🙂

©MoniqueAdrianne

Monday

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Just in case you didn’t know. But it’s cool! 😉 Don’t stress! Mondays are a chance for a fresh start to have an amazing week!!!! Enjoy the day! Embrace it. If there’s ever a moment when you feel like you’re fading into negativity, catch yourself, take a breath, and think of something that will make you smile. 🙂

©MoniqueAdrianne

Good Morning Beautiful

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She whispered, “Good morning beautiful,” to the freshly dew-kissed air. She looked on with wonder as the ice crystals high above in the troposphere danced with the sun, and the colors of the spectrum. They chased after her, begging to be seen through the dust speckled windows. ❤

©MoniqueAdrianne

Do What You Love and Do A Lot Of It

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Staying positive is tough. No matter what I post, I will be the first to admit that. There are some days I’d rather hibernate in my pillow cave fort and not come out till we have another ice age. Life shouldn’t be like that –we shouldn’t spend our energies on being stressed and overwhelmed and ultimately draining ourselves of what makes us content. So how do you make the choice to just be happy?
Yes, it IS a choice –it’s all in how you perceive what is going on. You could (like how I was last week), feed off of the negativity around you and complain and complain until you have a migraine about it. But did I progress from any of that?-nope, not at all. At the very least, I went backwards from my goals and dreams; while in the process, being an absolute Negative Nancy and Sensitive Sally (just an absolute bitch) to those that I care about most.
We all have stressful lives and events going on. I have an unnecessarily stressful job and I’m working on the most difficult class I could have taken after being out of school for 5 years. Instead of being consumed by stress, I should be focusing on how accomplished I feel, how grateful I am to get to this point, how thankful I am to have those I care about around me. To stay positive in the eye of a negative, stress hurricane, surround yourself with what you love. Do you love escaping into a book? –go take 10 min and read outside. Do you love the sun? –go take a walk and watch the sunset. All around you there are ways to embrace what you love. It’s easier to see through the storm when what you love illuminates and lights up your life. So do what you love, and do a lot of it. ❤

©MoniqueAdrianne

Autumn Equinox

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Happy Autumn Equinox! The colors that change throughout the environment…the way the softened sunlight dances through the windows…and the spicy smell of dried leaves in the air…it’s an absolutely beautiful time of year. While spring is understandably associated with new beginnings, autumn is similarly associated with death and endings. It’s not the end, it’s just part of the Universal cycle. During ancient times, fall was a time when the harvest was finished; to wrap up projects before winter. Autumn is a time for reflection –for looking at your internal “harvest,” and to ‘reap what you’ve sown.’ Sit back and watch the season change around you. Let it be an opportunity to learn what has worked and what didn’t for you. Regroup. Take time to manifest your dreams for the future.

“The seeds of the harvest have to die for future crops to be born.”

Take time to prepare to grow. ❤

©MoniqueAdrianne