“He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” -Emily Bronte
Be the woman you want to spend time with.
Inspire, motivate, build her up, be kind to her.
(Do not call her names, tear her down, or be cruel)
When she dresses up -compliment and smile at her. Assure her that she is beautiful.
(Do not glare, roll your eyes, or give jealous stares)
Encourage, support, and speak positively to her.
(Do not call her any negative expletive: “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore.”)
When she is bold and strong, praise her.
(Do not view her strength as cattiness or competition.)
Do not ever turn your back on her.
Feminism is the belief in the social, economic, and political equality for both men and women, all sexes and all genders. (Let’s move past this idea of binary categories- sex and gender are fluid across all spectrums)
If you believe in this, you are a feminist. Do not let the negative connotations that patriarchal societies create deter you from supporting one another and making the world a better place -for EVERYONE.
I’ve always been encouraged throughout my creative career to sell my artworks or showcase them. Each time, I cannot bear the thought of it. Each drawing, painting, photograph, poem, story, and article that I have ever created, I have infused and forged a piece of myself into it. It’s as if I have chiseled pieces of my soul and placed them in each word, each drip of paint, and each click of the lens.
Every message and phone call exclaiming that you’ve seen these pieces of me encapsulated in my art is precisely (what I feel), every artist truly desires. That acknowledgement, that inspired reaction, the recognition, the…acceptance.
My hugest craving in life is to feel appreciated and loved. And when someone takes the time to notice and acknowledge my creativity, my heart flutters like a butterfly in my ribcage.
Artists create to express, and when their work sparks and ignites more creativity and passion –that’s ultimately what it’s all about. Thank you. ❤ 🙂
(Quote originally by Henry Ward Beecher but I changed “he” to “she” )
“Teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.”
-Lakhota Prayer (the indigenous people of the Great Plains of North America)
Learn to trust ALL of yourself. You’re being unfair to your soul if you do not. ❤
Let your love light up someone’s day.
Share as much love as possible each and every day with as many people that you can. Let it overflow through your fingertips; let your love be filled with so much positive energy and intent, that it powerfully changes and shifts those around you.
Remember how much of an unstoppable force you are. Change the world around you with love, passion, positivity, and intention. ❤
Be yourself. Fully. Entirely. Without fault. With flaws and imperfections.
Never, ever, compromise who you are by pleasing those around you. You’re the one that gets the pleasure of being with yourself always, every day. So make sure it’s the ‘you’ that’s unapologetically themselves. Because that’s the best you!! Don’t tip toe around others, trying not to make a splash. Express yourself exuberantly!! Dance and swim to your heart’s content. It’s your happiness and you’re in charge of it -so choose to be happy!! 🙂
When I first started my website, I created a business plan. In this plan, I depicted my purpose, my mission statement….even my friend helped me incorporate all types of questions to reflect on. What are my readers’ needs? How do they assess the world around them? What are their desires? And most importantly, what do I want them to take from my writings?
Over the past year, I have strived to inspire, spark passion, & incite you to ask questions about yourselves…I’ve given advice & shared my stories & experiences with you.
I certainly do NOT know all of the answers. However, I am clear in my understanding of what my purpose here in this life is –I am meant to be a messenger. I do my best to share each lesson that I’ve learned, & in turn, I hope that it helps & aids you in each of your journeys.
I aspire to be a catalyst for your inspiration & passion; I do my best to encourage your self-realization & I always have my words come from a balanced, positive, loving, & gentle place within myself. Through what I write, I become more self-aware & continue to learn more about myself & the world around me.
I thank each & every one of you for your many kind words, your support & your love, & most of all, your consideration & awareness for what I attempt to express. This has become such an incredible, healing, & creative outlet for me & I hope to continue to motivate & encourage you in all of your endeavors. ❤ 🙂
A little over 6 months ago I was ready to give up on my dating search. Then I received an out of the ordinary, sweet and simple message from a very fetching and handsome gentleman. We spoke continually for a few weeks; he wasn’t at all pushy or insistent, and then finally we went out on our first date. His flatteringly, dazed face when he first saw me in person is still the look he has when I catch him gazing at me. It’s taken about 6 months for me to (almost) get used to how well he treats me –you will be happy to know that I finally “allow” him to open doors for me without refusal. He’s become a person in my life that really compliments me rather than consumes and engulfs me. He’s become my best friend that I can be my absolute and ridiculously nerdy self with. I’m still surprised how easily we get along and how similar we are to one another. I am so grateful every day that he found me and I’m certainly blessed that he is my boyfriend. I love you him much.
Happy belated 6 months!!!! ❤
Staying positive is tough. No matter what I post, I will be the first to admit that. There are some days I’d rather hibernate in my pillow cave fort and not come out till we have another ice age. Life shouldn’t be like that –we shouldn’t spend our energies on being stressed and overwhelmed and ultimately draining ourselves of what makes us content. So how do you make the choice to just be happy?
Yes, it IS a choice –it’s all in how you perceive what is going on. You could (like how I was last week), feed off of the negativity around you and complain and complain until you have a migraine about it. But did I progress from any of that?-nope, not at all. At the very least, I went backwards from my goals and dreams; while in the process, being an absolute Negative Nancy and Sensitive Sally (just an absolute bitch) to those that I care about most.
We all have stressful lives and events going on. I have an unnecessarily stressful job and I’m working on the most difficult class I could have taken after being out of school for 5 years. Instead of being consumed by stress, I should be focusing on how accomplished I feel, how grateful I am to get to this point, how thankful I am to have those I care about around me. To stay positive in the eye of a negative, stress hurricane, surround yourself with what you love. Do you love escaping into a book? –go take 10 min and read outside. Do you love the sun? –go take a walk and watch the sunset. All around you there are ways to embrace what you love. It’s easier to see through the storm when what you love illuminates and lights up your life. So do what you love, and do a lot of it. ❤
I never really understood the extent and significance to this statement. Once you learn to relax and let loose the massive grasp of control you have on every detail in your life, the more likely the Universe will be able to intervene more impressively. I have always struggled with anxiety and depression and the one thing that has become my safety net is my attempt to control everything around me –because in my eyes, this is how I can become less anxious, and less fearful of what may happen –I “know” what will happen, because I’m “in control of it!” Right? No, fortunately this is not the case in life. Yes I may feel “safe” and “guarded” due to my safety precautions, but in reality, I am not letting myself live my life –I am forcefully controlling and steering, and that’s truly not the point. This leads to anxiety, frustrations, and negativity. We are meant to be steered and guided by a greater force –in whatever you believe, the Universe helps and aids you in every aspect of your life. Once you open up, and let yourself be helped, your world opens up to these extraordinary possibilities.
Over the past year I have been trying to go back to school. I only need a few more classes before I am able to transfer to a 4 year. Because of my domineering attitude in my decision making, one obstacle kept springing up after another. “I need it THIS way, not THAT way. I CAN’T do it that way, I don’t WANT to do it that way.” Because of this, I became increasingly frustrated, and was very close to giving up. I took a break from my endeavor and unceremoniously came back to it recently. It just so happened that the day that I tried to sign in to apply again, my old password came to me, and some way or another, I signed up exactly a week before classes started –not only that, but the one class that I needed in order to transfer had a few spots still open and it fit into my schedule right after work. There are honestly no words to express how extraordinary and amazing the Universe is… how things come to you, how things just fall into place at exactly the right moment. All you have to do is learn to relax and let go and really absorb and understand exactly what that means. ❤
When the sun leaves the sky,
That’s how I feel when we leave each other.
I’m left glowing and your imprints remain on my skin.
After awhile they fade away into the sky,
And you leave stars in my eyes…
The night sky only glows so brightly when she knows the sun will kiss her in the morning.
Saw this beautiful message today and it could not come at a more perfect moment.
So how do you get ‘unstuck’? I have yet to answer this question for myself…however, I do not believe it’s something that just happens after a few decisions in the right direction. Today the options and paths you can take are endless so it’s no wonder that we can feel overwhelmed so easily. When I feel immersed, I become paralyzed. I tend to get into this vicious cycle of dreaming about the future and then quickly becoming guilty and ashamed because there’s so much more I could have done in the past to make my future better. Clearly, this is self-sabotaging and just plain negative.
The choices that you’ve made have only made you into this amazing person today so gently respect and regard your past; do not judge it –just let it be, because it cannot be changed. The only thing that you can do is make decisions now that will push you positively forward. Forget about the ‘why’ and focus on the DOING instead!!
“Compare where you are to where you want to be, and you’ll get nowhere.” -Sara Bareilles -Uncharted
How many times have your relationships not worked out? We could be here a while I know…
Now that you’re thinking about it, do you see a commonality?
In all of my experiences and relationships, I take personal responsibility for my part in it. Yes, I may have been cheated on and had my heart crushed multiple times and yes, it was awful and terrible. Yet in all of these instances, the one consistency is ME.
Learning to love myself was one of my greatest lessons in life thus far; it’s a relationship that you have to work on continuously. In retrospect, a lot of my relationship issues were caused from not loving myself enough. I stayed in relationships because I was too scared to leave; because I didn’t want to hurt the other person; because I didn’t realize my self-worth; because I didn’t know I deserved better. The majority of relationship problems stem from miscommunication and perspective. The tricky part is that our perspective is widely affected by our self-esteem. How can we view and treat others with respect and love if we don’t respect and love ourselves first?
That’s why learning to love yourself is the first step to accepting love from others. We can only receive the love we think we deserve. You should come to the realization that you deserve a love that fills every inch of you; a love that makes your heart smile and persists and thrives even in times without light. But first you need to learn to fall in love with yourself. ❤
Sometimes we can get so trapped and caught up in our own thoughts of work and school and our routine that we miss out on the bigger picture. It’s tough to stay in the moment when there’s so much going on around you. Your mind keeps racing before bed while you keep making lists in your head of all of the things that you still need to do. It’s okay to feel like this and it’s okay to experience this but you should not get so stuck that you let life pass you by as you just run through the motions.
Take three deep breaths and your entire perspective widens. Just remember that these little intricacies and complexities of life are just that –in the wider scheme of things they do not matter as much as YOU.
Learn to take care of yourself; change your perspective like the widening of a film shot; and most of all –don’t forget to actually LIVE and be PRESENT. What’s the point with working towards having it ‘all’ when you miss out on all of the greatness around you? You already have everything you need within you and everything that life has presented are the instruments to create your own happiness. (picture by @earmarksocial )
When I was younger, I figured that everyone was nice. I wanted to grow and learn more about the world. I thought that intelligence is what we should strive for and that everyone is innately kind and genuine. Little did I know that over the many years I would learn the hard truth that not everyone is truly considerate or compassionate –in actuality, this is an extremely rare quality. I’m not sure where all the sympathetic people went. Knowledge and intellect is something you can work towards –that’s the beauty of the human brain. The more stimuli you experience, the more you learn. We’re always learning. But where does kindness stem from? What makes a person empathize with the person standing next to them; makes them smile at one another; is naturally compassionate? There’s a genuineness that comes with being kind –it cannot be forced or coerced –if it is, then it is false. Kindheartedness comes from a deeper place of love and positivity. I think that many people have lost this connectivity due to the increased agitations and distractions in our world today. You’ve got to make an effort to get back to that place. All the answers and authentic truths are inside you already –there’s no reason to search for it anywhere else. The frustrations that come from searching for it outside of yourself is what causes maliciousness and spitefulness and this affects the people around you. Why seek something that is already within you? ❤ (picture by hplyrikz.com)
Sometimes it gets so overwhelming trying to set your goals and really follow through with your dreams. Personally I find it difficult to keep my passion going. Try this approach… Don’t think about 5 years from now -think about the little things within your control right now and today. It will seem less scary and paralyzing if you break it up into parts you can actually mold and create. It will make your life and dreams more tangible. You can easily construct the good in your life that you want to. In turn, your positive actions will bring about more goodness, and who doesn’t want that?
(picture by recitethis.com )
When the world seems chaotic and everything seems off, it’s often difficult to give in to the idea that we have very little control over the Universe. We must surrender that need to control every little part around us and accept that there are just some things that are beyond our reach. During Mercury Retrograde, when it seems so apparent that the world has gone nuts and your thoughts seem to go haywire…use this as a humbling experience. We are such a small part to this extraordinary life. Just flow with it. Thankfully we can go back to “normalcy” today-Wednesday. (Honestly not soon enough…. I’ve had it….)
Excerpt from Zen and the Art of Happiness by Chris Prentiss.