“I didn’t always know what I wanted to do, but I knew the kind of woman I wanted to be.” -Diane Von Furstenberg
And oh what a last few weeks it has been. In my class, our teacher had us complete a ‘healthy body image’ activity. The questions asked were:
‘How do you see yourself in the mirror?’
‘How do you feel about your body?’
‘How do you feel in your body?’
I didn’t even need to contemplate my answers. I swiftly wrote down, “I see myself as a very beautiful and confident woman; I believe that my personality shines through in my own appearance.”
So many of the young adults around me had such difficulty writing their answers down. It was surreal seeing my younger self in them, scrambling to piece together their insecurities into coherent sentences. I suppose I’ve taken my great confidence & assertive personality for granted. I had never visually witnessed the great depths of my progress from a young adult into a 29 year old woman. So many of my experiences over the last 10 years have shaped & molded me into the person I am today. Yet, sometimes others, particularly women, receive my poise & confidence in some way threatening & intimidating. This response has absolutely baffled me, but I’ve found that how we treat others is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. When someone is insecure & uncertain in themselves –envy, resentment, & anger arise. If we do not value & admire ourselves, how can we respect & care for anyone else? Simply be the incredible, & extraordinary person that you are. Perhaps you are meant to remind others how to love themselves as well. <3
Be the woman you want to spend time with.
Inspire, motivate, build her up, be kind to her. (Do not call her names, tear her down, or be cruel)
When she dresses up -compliment and smile at her. Assure her that she is beautiful. (Do not glare, roll your eyes, or give jealous stares)
Encourage, support, and speak positively to her. (Do not call her any negative expletive: “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore.”)
When she is bold and strong, praise her. (Do not view her strength as cattiness or competition.)
Do not ever turn your back on her.
Feminism is the belief in the social, economic, and political equality for both men and women, all sexes and all genders. (Let’s move past this idea of binary categories- sex and gender are fluid across all spectrums)
If you believe in this, you are a feminist. Do not let the negative connotations that patriarchal societies create deter you from supporting one another and making the world a better place -for EVERYONE.
I’ve always been encouraged throughout my creative career to sell my artworks or showcase them. Each time, I cannot bear the thought of it. Each drawing, painting, photograph, poem, story, and article that I have ever created, I have infused and forged a piece of myself into it. It’s as if I have chiseled pieces of my soul and placed them in each word, each drip of paint, and each click of the lens.
Every message and phone call exclaiming that you’ve seen these pieces of me encapsulated in my art is precisely (what I feel), every artist truly desires. That acknowledgement, that inspired reaction, the recognition, the…acceptance.
My hugest craving in life is to feel appreciated and loved. And when someone takes the time to notice and acknowledge my creativity, my heart flutters like a butterfly in my ribcage.
Artists create to express, and when their work sparks and ignites more creativity and passion –that’s ultimately what it’s all about. Thank you. <3:)
(Quote originally by Henry Ward Beecher but I changed “he” to “she” )
No matter what happens, I am right where I need to be. What I desire is not always the Universe’s plan. Sometimes God has something much more marvelous and amazing in store for us.
Now is the time for inner work, meditation, patience, and having faith that the door will open when I am ready for it to be opened. There are clearly more lessons that need to be grasped.
Thank you for all of your love and support. It means the world to me having such incredible friends and family at my side.
“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” -Woody Allen
I now know that I have angels as bumpers around me.
I was 2 feet away from being T-boned on my driver’s side this morning on my way to work –meaning I would literally not be here right now.
I was going through the intersection of 17th and Newport (in Costa Mesa) going north on 17th. A bmw suv comes crashing through the red light from my left narrowly missing me, crashing into a car’s front hood on my left behind me, and then on my right behind me.
Lesson for the day:
Today be grateful that you are alive and well. Life is fleeting, life is fragile, and should be cherished. Thank you for reminding me to stop stressing about the small things and to focus on the bigger picture.
Express your love to those around you this weekend. Live and love. <3
“Teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.”
-Lakhota Prayer (the indigenous people of the Great Plains of North America)
Learn to trust ALL of yourself. You’re being unfair to your soul if you do not. <3
What my work experience has taught me over the last 10 years is that interpersonal communication is the most VITAL and central part of our successes and failures; obviously this is true simply with life in general but I’m speaking more about our professional aspect.
Yet, 99.9% of people do not know how to express themselves or communicate effectively. Sometimes this can come across as anger, annoyance, or the most popular -speaking in a patronizing or condescending manner. It’s as if we can speak our hearts out all we want, but the receiver will almost always miss our point entirely; like there’s a thick window in front of us -you can see but not hear.
Make a conscious effort today to really LISTEN to what others are saying. Not just their words, but their meaning. Slow it down and not only think before you speak but really give your attention.
What communication skills do you feel everyone should have? If you have any tips or tricks, please share!