Do Not Ever Turn Your Back On Her

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Be the woman you want to spend time with.
Inspire, motivate, build her up, be kind to her.
(Do not call her names, tear her down, or be cruel)
When she dresses up -compliment and smile at her. Assure her that she is beautiful.
(Do not glare, roll your eyes, or give jealous stares)
Encourage, support, and speak positively to her.
(Do not call her any negative expletive: “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore.”)
When she is bold and strong, praise her.
(Do not view her strength as cattiness or competition.)

Do not ever turn your back on her.


Feminism is the belief in the social, economic, and political equality for both men and women, all sexes and all genders. (Let’s move past this idea of binary categories- sex and gender are fluid across all spectrums)


If you believe in this, you are a feminist. Do not let the negative connotations that patriarchal societies create deter you from supporting one another and making the world a better place -for EVERYONE.

©MoniqueAdrianne

She Paints Her Dreams With Parts of Her Soul

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I’ve always been encouraged throughout my creative career to sell my artworks or showcase them. Each time, I cannot bear the thought of it. Each drawing, painting, photograph, poem, story, and article that I have ever created, I have infused and forged a piece of myself into it. It’s as if I have chiseled pieces of my soul and placed them in each word, each drip of paint, and each click of the lens.


Every message and phone call exclaiming that you’ve seen these pieces of me encapsulated in my art is precisely (what I feel), every artist truly desires. That acknowledgement, that inspired reaction, the recognition, the…acceptance.
My hugest craving in life is to feel appreciated and loved. And when someone takes the time to notice and acknowledge my creativity, my heart flutters like a butterfly in my ribcage.


Artists create to express, and when their work sparks and ignites more creativity and passion –that’s ultimately what it’s all about. Thank you. <3 :)

(Quote originally by Henry Ward Beecher but I changed “he” to “she” )

©MoniqueAdrianne

It’s All Within You

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No matter what happens, I am right where I need to be. What I desire is not always the Universe’s plan. Sometimes God has something much more marvelous and amazing in store for us.
Now is the time for inner work, meditation, patience, and having faith that the door will open when I am ready for it to be opened. There are clearly more lessons that need to be grasped.
Thank you for all of your love and support. It means the world to me having such incredible friends and family at my side.


“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” -Woody Allen

©MoniqueAdrianne

(artwork by Carly Marie)

 

Today Be Grateful

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I now know that I have angels as bumpers around me.
I was 2 feet away from being T-boned on my driver’s side this morning on my way to work –meaning I would literally not be here right now.
I was going through the intersection of 17th and Newport (in Costa Mesa) going north on 17th. A bmw suv comes crashing through the red light from my left narrowly missing me, crashing into a car’s front hood on my left behind me, and then on my right behind me.


Lesson for the day:

Today be grateful that you are alive and well. Life is fleeting, life is fragile, and should be cherished. Thank you for reminding me to stop stressing about the small things and to focus on the bigger picture.

Express your love to those around you this weekend. Live and love. <3

©MoniqueAdrianne

Teach Me How to Trust Myself

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“Teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.”

-Lakhota Prayer (the indigenous people of the Great Plains of North America)

Learn to trust ALL of yourself. You’re being unfair to your soul if you do not. <3

©MoniqueAdrianne

 

Listen Silently

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What my work experience has taught me over the last 10 years is that interpersonal communication is the most VITAL and central part of our successes and failures; obviously this is true simply with life in general but I’m speaking more about our professional aspect.

Yet, 99.9% of people do not know how to express themselves or communicate effectively. Sometimes this can come across as anger, annoyance, or the most popular -speaking in a patronizing or condescending manner. It’s as if we can speak our hearts out all we want, but the receiver will almost always miss our point entirely; like there’s a thick window in front of us -you can see but not hear.

Make a conscious effort today to really LISTEN to what others are saying. Not just their words, but their meaning. Slow it down and not only think before you speak but really give your attention.

What communication skills do you feel everyone should have? If you have any tips or tricks, please share!

©MoniqueAdrianne

What I’m Taking With Me -Lessons Learned in 2014 (Part Three)

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3. Tolerance and understanding.

As some of you may know, I am a slightly strong-headed individual… I’m sensitive, take things too personally; I’m open and very honest with what I’m feeling and at times I can come off as a little harsh to those around me.

There’s a difference that I’ve learned recently between assertiveness and aggression. Assertiveness is when you are confident in your decisions without being combative. I am positive and self-assured; yet, I’m particularly aggressive when it comes to voicing my opinions and feelings. My annoyance for those around me has only increased in recent years –even those that are not directly affecting me. If another’s opinions are directly in contrast with my own, I take it personally –I feel that their judgments are aimed straight at me. It’s thoughtless and rash to react in this way and I’ve come to recognize that.

As with any experience, I aim to look for the meaning and the lesson behind it. Of course it can be very difficult to look past infuriating moments to get to the core of its message. For example, in my office, it is quite common for openly racist, sexist, and elitist remarks to fly around constantly each day. It has become a very harsh environment to be exposed to.

I am of Mexican ethnicity and I have never caught on to learning Spanish. When racist comments are made regarding Mexican people, I make a point to remind them who I am. However, their dismissive responses are always, “We know, but you’re not that kind of Mexican,” or “You’re not really Mexican.”

There have been discussions expressing their opinions of impoverished, poor people –they believe that their financial standing is merely fault of their own and that they are lazy.

There have even been appalling statements made to the extent that any woman that claims she was raped is simply lying.

While all of this is discussed in front of me, I sit there, shocked and disgusted, attempting to keep my mouth shut. I know that voicing my difference of opinion will only cause friction and possible combative arguments. I realize that I alone may not be able to change their minds. The cost of speaking up is too high.

There is a reason why I am so passionate about what I believe in. When there are certain injustices in the world and the notion, “Someone should do something about this,” pops into our minds, we are meant to be that someone.

I understand my purpose, yet I am still frustrated with this anger that I feel when these comments arise. Tolerance and understanding is a lesson that I am currently being presented with. It is an open-ended understanding that I have not yet acquired and it could take my whole lifetime for me to comprehend. What am I meant to learn from these unpleasant people?

I’ve been pondering my moral dilemma for a few days and decided to ask a well-intentioned friend for his opinion. He said:

“You don’t have to be tolerant of their views but to get past the anger towards these people, an effort should be made to understand them instead. When we can recognize why another thinks a certain way, we don’t have to agree with them, but we can at least have consideration for where they’re coming from.”

I feel that his response was expressed perfectly! Our opinions, our beliefs, our emotions –they are each uniquely our own. We are shaped and molded by our personal experiences. Learning and growing to understand the distinct differences of others is the first step towards empathy. We do not have to agree with everyone. However, it would better ourselves and those around us –our communities, our states, our nations, and our world –to make an effort to understand each other. Acknowledgement of another’s struggles could be the missing key that is needed to expand our empathy and compassion–at the very least, it could diminish the anger that we feel towards others.

©MoniqueAdrianne