I never really understood the extent and significance to this statement. Once you learn to relax and let loose the massive grasp of control you have on every detail in your life, the more likely the Universe will be able to intervene more impressively. I have always struggled with anxiety and depression and the one thing that has become my safety net is my attempt to control everything around me –because in my eyes, this is how I can become less anxious, and less fearful of what may happen –I “know” what will happen, because I’m “in control of it!” Right? No, fortunately this is not the case in life. Yes I may feel “safe” and “guarded” due to my safety precautions, but in reality, I am not letting myself live my life –I am forcefully controlling and steering, and that’s truly not the point. This leads to anxiety, frustrations, and negativity. We are meant to be steered and guided by a greater force –in whatever you believe, the Universe helps and aids you in every aspect of your life. Once you open up, and let yourself be helped, your world opens up to these extraordinary possibilities.
Over the past year I have been trying to go back to school. I only need a few more classes before I am able to transfer to a 4 year. Because of my domineering attitude in my decision making, one obstacle kept springing up after another. “I need it THIS way, not THAT way. I CAN’T do it that way, I don’t WANT to do it that way.” Because of this, I became increasingly frustrated, and was very close to giving up. I took a break from my endeavor and unceremoniously came back to it recently. It just so happened that the day that I tried to sign in to apply again, my old password came to me, and some way or another, I signed up exactly a week before classes started –not only that, but the one class that I needed in order to transfer had a few spots still open and it fit into my schedule right after work. There are honestly no words to express how extraordinary and amazing the Universe is… how things come to you, how things just fall into place at exactly the right moment. All you have to do is learn to relax and let go and really absorb and understand exactly what that means. <3
When the sun leaves the sky,
That’s how I feel when we leave each other.
I’m left glowing and your imprints remain on my skin.
After awhile they fade away into the sky,
And you leave stars in my eyes…
The night sky only glows so brightly when she knows the sun will kiss her in the morning.
Saw this beautiful message today and it could not come at a more perfect moment.
So how do you get ‘unstuck’? I have yet to answer this question for myself…however, I do not believe it’s something that just happens after a few decisions in the right direction. Today the options and paths you can take are endless so it’s no wonder that we can feel overwhelmed so easily. When I feel immersed, I become paralyzed. I tend to get into this vicious cycle of dreaming about the future and then quickly becoming guilty and ashamed because there’s so much more I could have done in the past to make my future better. Clearly, this is self-sabotaging and just plain negative.
The choices that you’ve made have only made you into this amazing person today so gently respect and regard your past; do not judge it –just let it be, because it cannot be changed. The only thing that you can do is make decisions now that will push you positively forward. Forget about the ‘why’ and focus on the DOING instead!!
“Compare where you are to where you want to be, and you’ll get nowhere.” -Sara Bareilles -Uncharted
How many times have your relationships not worked out? We could be here a while I know…
Now that you’re thinking about it, do you see a commonality?
In all of my experiences and relationships, I take personal responsibility for my part in it. Yes, I may have been cheated on and had my heart crushed multiple times and yes, it was awful and terrible. Yet in all of these instances, the one consistency is ME.
Learning to love myself was one of my greatest lessons in life thus far; it’s a relationship that you have to work on continuously. In retrospect, a lot of my relationship issues were caused from not loving myself enough. I stayed in relationships because I was too scared to leave; because I didn’t want to hurt the other person; because I didn’t realize my self-worth; because I didn’t know I deserved better. The majority of relationship problems stem from miscommunication and perspective. The tricky part is that our perspective is widely affected by our self-esteem. How can we view and treat others with respect and love if we don’t respect and love ourselves first?
That’s why learning to love yourself is the first step to accepting love from others. We can only receive the love we think we deserve. You should come to the realization that you deserve a love that fills every inch of you; a love that makes your heart smile and persists and thrives even in times without light. But first you need to learn to fall in love with yourself. <3
Sometimes we can get so trapped and caught up in our own thoughts of work and school and our routine that we miss out on the bigger picture. It’s tough to stay in the moment when there’s so much going on around you. Your mind keeps racing before bed while you keep making lists in your head of all of the things that you still need to do. It’s okay to feel like this and it’s okay to experience this but you should not get so stuck that you let life pass you by as you just run through the motions.
Take three deep breaths and your entire perspective widens. Just remember that these little intricacies and complexities of life are just that –in the wider scheme of things they do not matter as much as YOU.
Learn to take care of yourself; change your perspective like the widening of a film shot; and most of all –don’t forget to actually LIVE and be PRESENT. What’s the point with working towards having it ‘all’ when you miss out on all of the greatness around you? You already have everything you need within you and everything that life has presented are the instruments to create your own happiness. (picture by @earmarksocial )
All our experiences up to this point have created and molded us into who we are. I am a true believer that whatever we endure –we are meant to learn from and in return we become stronger and more resilient for what has yet to come.
Yesterday I came into contact with people from my past and disappointingly they were involved in one of the most awful experiences I’ve had. Even though I quickly fell to pieces the moment I saw them, the one fragment I can take away from this is the comparison of my growth between that distressing involvement and my present.
We can never change the past and I honestly do not believe in regrets –there is only the act of acquiring wisdom from our mistakes. I’m thankful for all that has been –no matter how intense; I’m thankful for all that I have –because without my past, I would have nothing; and I’m thankful for all that has yet to be –because everything thus far has led me to this point now.
Never be remorseful for your past because your present would look very very different without it. <3
When I was younger, I figured that everyone was nice. I wanted to grow and learn more about the world. I thought that intelligence is what we should strive for and that everyone is innately kind and genuine. Little did I know that over the many years I would learn the hard truth that not everyone is truly considerate or compassionate –in actuality, this is an extremely rare quality. I’m not sure where all the sympathetic people went. Knowledge and intellect is something you can work towards –that’s the beauty of the human brain. The more stimuli you experience, the more you learn. We’re always learning. But where does kindness stem from? What makes a person empathize with the person standing next to them; makes them smile at one another; is naturally compassionate? There’s a genuineness that comes with being kind –it cannot be forced or coerced –if it is, then it is false. Kindheartedness comes from a deeper place of love and positivity. I think that many people have lost this connectivity due to the increased agitations and distractions in our world today. You’ve got to make an effort to get back to that place. All the answers and authentic truths are inside you already –there’s no reason to search for it anywhere else. The frustrations that come from searching for it outside of yourself is what causes maliciousness and spitefulness and this affects the people around you. Why seek something that is already within you? <3 (picture by hplyrikz.com)
Sometimes it gets so overwhelming trying to set your goals and really follow through with your dreams. Personally I find it difficult to keep my passion going. Try this approach… Don’t think about 5 years from now -think about the little things within your control right now and today. It will seem less scary and paralyzing if you break it up into parts you can actually mold and create. It will make your life and dreams more tangible. You can easily construct the good in your life that you want to. In turn, your positive actions will bring about more goodness, and who doesn’t want that?
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When the world seems chaotic and everything seems off, it’s often difficult to give in to the idea that we have very little control over the Universe. We must surrender that need to control every little part around us and accept that there are just some things that are beyond our reach. During Mercury Retrograde, when it seems so apparent that the world has gone nuts and your thoughts seem to go haywire…use this as a humbling experience. We are such a small part to this extraordinary life. Just flow with it. Thankfully we can go back to “normalcy” today-Wednesday. (Honestly not soon enough…. I’ve had it….)
Excerpt from Zen and the Art of Happiness by Chris Prentiss.
The people that you have in your life are there by no mistake. Every circumstance, every word, and every interaction has an effect on all those around you. Be open to why certain individuals are in your life. Be inspired; learn to love in different ways and be loved in return; be motivated; be pushed; and experience as much as you can take in. ♡ Over the years I have personally limited the people that I surround myself with. I’d rather choose good-hearted and genuine friends around me that share a mutual motivation to inspire and affect others. If you are in my life, you are there for a reason and it means that you have truly influenced me and my decisions at one point or another-could be from a conversation or just from you being you. Just be yourself and always act with intention and love-you never know how you can affect someone. <3
One thing I’ve learned from the past few weeks is to just really live in the moment. I’ve spent too much time in the past over-analyzing every little word someone says to me and this just creates issues that were never there. The best friendships and relationships happen naturally and gracefully. They’re not going to be amazing or real if you force it, so just let it be. When you’ve found someone in your life that accepts you when you’re being completely yourself -without the anxieties, without the questioning, and without the assumptions- that’s the best feeling in the world. They sincerely make your heart smile. ♡
Definitely had to be reminded of this today. I’ve been super frustrated with work lately and I realized that it really doesn’t need to be like that-I’m only reacting that way. So I stop myself, breathe, and figure out what I can do to make the situation better -put music on, change my methods, and recognize that these little irritations don’t matter as much as the big picture. I am so grateful for the life that I have. That I’m here and that I’m ME-everything that I’ve done in my life, the steps, the words, the directions I’ve taken, it’s all led me to this point now and I’ve affected everyone that I’ve come into contact with. We are all more meaningful and influential than we give ourselves credit for. I’m thankful for kissing all of the frogs in the past and being found by someone that makes me realize that all of those terrible dates, and boyfriends, and searching, and frustrations may have only led me here for an amazing reason… We live in this absolutely beautiful and stunning place and whenever you walk outside into the sunlight, let it awaken your gratefulness for all that you have, all that you will receive and all that is yet to come. ♡
And being excited is an understatement. However, don’t be so focused on the hours and days or weeks ahead and forget to live in this moment too. Be present. I’m grateful for all that I have, all that I will receive and and everything that is to come.
Surround yourself with amazing people that can equally see how fantastic you are! We’re all mirrors of each other -teaching and learning more about ourselves. So find people that reflect your inner you and will appreciate and acknowledge how beautiful you are inside and out. ♡
Push yourself to accomplish your goals. Tell someone how much you truly care about them. I promise you that when you’re courageous, amazing and positive things will occur. Try it and tell me how it goes. ♡